This evening, we ate on the deck as we have been doing the last week or so. It's a lovely conversation-rich time with my two men, V. and D. (our youngest son aged 22). D. has been ill and stressed with school the last 6 weeks or so and has not quite been himself. This evening, he was back.
Just for the fun of it, I asked D. what 5 words he would use to describe V. and 5 words for myself. He began, and V. helped with my 5 qualifiers:
Then we went on to our top 5 words to describe D.:
V. had his turn too:
This little exercise was as rich as it was simple. We all had to agree on the 5 words, including the person being described. T. (our eldest son who is going to be 25 in September) arrives tomorrow night. He will be getting his gift of 5 qualifiers too.
Try this with your loved-ones and friends. It's very revealing and validating at the same time.